So the third trimester is from weeks 28 to 40. Each trimester is not 12 weeks like I thought! My only excuse is that I’ve done so many 12 week challenges that I guess my brain was still used to thinking of time in 12 week chunks. Or maybe it was just pregnancy brain lol! So anyway, that’s my disclaimer why my third trimester blog post will be from weeks 25 ;)
I was expecting the third trimester fatigue to hit me like a ton of bricks since I had been fatigued in the first trimester and had adrenal fatigue. Instead my immune system was still struggling and I was still catching colds.
In week 26 I did the glucose test for gestational diabetes. The sugary drink wasn’t as bad as I had thought and the time actually went quick while I was there for a couple of hours to get the three blood tests done. While I was waiting I did meet with a lady I had found on gumtree to be my student midwife. I still don’t know why it had been so hard to find a student midwife through the proper channels but I’m glad I found Abigail. I had fallen in love with this image she had posted on her gumtree ad and when we met we got along so I knew I wouldn’t mind her seeing me at my most primal during labour.
The following week we had another ultrasound. This was by request at Wedtern Diagnostic and is called a growth/wellbeing scan. We had booked it partly to confirm we were having a girl (after all the trouble at our anatomy and gender scans) and also to take my mother in law (but she was sick on the day). It was great to see our baby again and to get more of a confirmation that we were having a girl :)
Later in the week bubs rolled over and the kicks and jabs I had been used to were replaced with like a scraping feeling along the inside of my belly. It honestly felt like I had a creature inside me even though I knew it was my perfect baby girl.
The next couple of weeks were a bit of an emotional roller coaster with some issues with my husband but even through it all we kept our baby our priority and managed to find a second hand Bugaboo Cameleon 3 in mint condition. The stress did have a toll on me and the pregnancy insomnia I had been developing got worse. At first it had been stress about the upcoming changes at work but then I had relationship stress and financial stress to add to that. And going in to work on 4-6 hours sleep was not fun!
I think this was what pushed me to get a reading done which I had always wanted to do but never been brave enough to do it because I always wanted to be in control of my own life. Fran was great and really made me feel like I was making the right choices with my studies and future business. She also told me that since my pregnancy had been problem free I would hit a stumbling block during labour and that it wouldn’t go to plan. She also said to expect baby Q from the 10th. I told her I wanted a water birth and she then said that may have been what she meant because she could see it wasn’t going to be a ‘normal, conventional’ birth. And then she told me that bubs might be late. So I didn’t really know what to expect but I still felt good about the reading.
The universal connections kept going that weekend when I attended Jeffrey Slater’s Free Humanity event. I had first seen him at Secrets in the Garden in my first trimester and felt the connection to Mother Earth and the Divine Feminine. This 2 day event was a mix of business and spiritual and I did find it hard to soak up all the business insights knowing I didn’t have much time to act on them. But the spiritual stuff really resonated with me. I loved the tribal songs he played and his talks about the Divine Feminine. Knowing my baby girl is inside me has really made me feel connected to all the women that have come before me. On the second day we did a meditation ritual where the lights were turned off, we all lay down, the tribal songs were played and some South American sage was burnt. He then walked around beating a drum and when he starting beating it over me I felt my breath quicken and before I knew it I was crying. He stayed there until I let it all out. I couldn’t believe the feeling from this release, or even that I had something to release. I later heard the drums coming closer to me again and didn’t expect anything to happen but I ended up crying again. All I could do was hold my hand over my belly and hope the release was helping Baby Q as well. It felt like we had such a strong connection to each other and to the universe.
I had my faith in the universe and that everything that was happening was for a reason. And at 32 weeks we moved into a new rental. I felt pretty useless not being able to move boxes and by that night I ended up with gastro so I was totally useless. But at least everything had been moved in and we just needed to settle in. Which didn’t start until a couple days later when I was recovered. All my pent up nesting feelings were finally released and I enjoyed setting up home but left the nursery for last.
I also found out that moving/renovating/building a house is a common thing that pregnant women do. I don’t know why because it only added to my stress load which meant I was still struggling with pregnancy insomnia. It was around this time that I put more focus on my self care. You can read more about what I did here.
I had my baby shower at 34 weeks which was as amazing as I could have hoped. I felt so blessed to be surrounded by friends and family who absolutely spoilt Baby Q. You can read more about my baby shower here.
I then had my final week of work to get through which was a struggle. Not just with all the structural and position changes going on but also because I developed a really bad cough. My immune system had finally been on point and then this cough hit me. It was so painful every time I coughed. My stomach muscles aches and I felt like I couldn’t breathe. The doctor prescribed antibiotics which I didn’t want to take because I had done so much to heal my gut but I had to put baby first.
I had a lovely morning tea at work where I was showered with lots of amazing gifts but I was really struggling with my cough and planned to finish up work after lunch. But I felt a little better so I pushed through until the end of the day making it my last day, so I finished up work one day early. It was such a weird feeling knowing I was now on maternity leave.
But I had to wait until I recovered before I could enjoy my time before bubs arrived, which would be four weeks if she arrived on time. And before I could relax I still had a million and one things to do including finally getting the nursery done. My number one priority was catching up on sleep but unfortunately my insomnia didn’t get much better.
My other priority was trying to get bubs to turn from a posterior position. I had been so happy at my 35 week midwife appointment when we found out that bubs was head down but unfortunately she was posterior which means spine to spine which means a long and painful labour.
To try to get her to turn I used my fitball a lot, was on my hands and knees and read up on spinning babies. At 37 weeks we attended a couples childbirth workshop at A Labour of Love in Willetton. It was a great workshop for both me and hubby and we both felt more prepared for the birth. Gaby also palpated baby and said bubs was anterior. I was really happy to hear that.
But a couple of days later I was at the hospital for my first routine obstetrician appointment and found out bubs was still posterior. The OB told me that was the least of my problems because my blood pressure was high and she sent me off for tests including blood pressure monitoring for an hour. I was so emotional because if she didn’t like my results then I wouldn’t be getting my water birth.
Luckily all the tests came back fine and my blood pressure was back to normal. I had been stressed in the morning and it also could have been white coat syndrome! And possibly stress because all I wanted to do that day was my DIY maternity shoot. There was a pose on the beach that I really wanted to do and the weather was turning to crap the next day but the sun was going to set within an hour of us finally leaving the hospital. In the end we decided to quickly grab everything and attempt the photo. The sun was already setting but we managed to get the shot! You can read more about my DIY maternity photoshoot here.
At my midwife appointment a couple of days later my blood pressure was still good so I’m pretty sure it was white coat syndrome.
My to do list was finally down to a few things at week 38. Create my vision board for the birth and meal plan and prep the food I wanted to eat during the labour and meals to freeze for the tough days/nights ahead.
I hadn’t thought of creating a vision board. It was actually our ‘playwork’ from the couples childbirth workshop. But I’m so glad I did it. I lost my top ten birth preferences in a nice design I made with Canva and I printed off some pregnancy and water birth drawings I had saved during my pregnancy. I also included drawings of active labour positions which had been one of the handouts I received during my 6 week yoga course with Barefoot Babes. And the final touches came from these positive birth affirmations I had found on Pinterest and you can download here. I so love the final piece!
The next day at I started planning my meals. I had got as far as making my shopping list when my waters broke. Well they started trickling. I rang the hospital and they wanted me to come in to confirm it was amniotic fluid. Which it was. They sent me home and if labour hadn’t started by 5am the next day I needed to go back for antibiotics and then I would have another 4 hours for labour to start spontaneously. This was the hospital policy because of the risk of infection.
And so that’s it for the third trimester. Here’s the last bumpie I took in her room, excited about meting her. Stay tuned for my birth story xx